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The solace I can take from any success at red-pilling a friend or colleague (and I have succeeded a few times) is somehow not enough to block the devastating pain I feel because my own children have turned against me for trying to warn them.

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One day they will thank you, even if it's after you're dead. Better to the right thing regardless of the short term cost or pain.

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Thank you Joel.

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I know how it feels, I had the same for a while. I have had to stop speaking and win them back by engaging with normal stuff that they don't feel threatened by. Remember how scary it was to adjust at the beginning? If felt like the whole world had gone crazy and how lonely it was to go against everyone. They're just scared of feeling like so they shut down any possibility you might be correct but eventually they'll realise you're right. Try to build bridges in the meantim . Good luck.

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ThereтАЩs a lot of us in that particular boat. I came across this article last night in my virtual wandering, and thought it was helpful. May all our loved ones who tread on shifting sand make it safely to a more solid foundation, and find us there, still loving them.

https://unbekoming.substack.com/p/a-libertarian-boomer?utm_source=substack&utm_medium=email

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You are not alone in that. Hang in there. As Desmet has said, these regimes all fall apart eventually. We just have to fight where we can, and try to survive until it destroys itself.

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ThatтАЩs literally the story of Jesus. You just summed up the gospels.

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I see the same, in a multitude of ways, all the time. This is at its core a spiritual battle for the souls of mankind.

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It is indeed painful to see they are no longer open to alternative views....either frightened to confront the truth, or totally sold on the propaganda. Many parents in the same boat...but to keep trying is to keep the flame of hope flickering, and, one day they may come to realise what has been done to them. The hard part is watching them spinning off on a different damaging trajectory.

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My children have not turned against me but they do not listen to me either and continue to Vax their children. It is surprising because one is a Bernie Bro type who hates corporations and the other is a prepper.

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Yes. One day they will realize you were correct. You might not get an apology, but

they will gradually start speaking again....I am so sorry for your pain.

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When I pray, I also apologize to my parents for the things I was VERY, VERY wrong about.

"Sorry, Mom. I was wrong about the .........", is quite a powerful and healing thing to say.

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It also shows your willingness to self reflect and provide yourself forgiveness. Seems like a very heart opening/ healing experience.

I've made similar apologies to people who have passed when realizing they held different perspectives regarding frustrating interactions with them when they were still living due to the relationship dynamics. Sort of like a conversation with an old friend, with much more understanding on my part with life experience and passage of time. It feels quite renewing and invokes deep gratitude from me. Hard to describe.....

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I do too. How silly we were when young.

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I feel your pain - I have one with and one against! I'm going to send a copy of Desmet's book to the against for his birthday. I'm halfway through it at the moment and it's very insightful.

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I can recommend RFK JrтАЩs book The Real Anthony Fauci, if you can get you kid to read it.

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Aliss, we are all your family--you are not a lone species. Our common epigenetic traits are pain, alienation, and avoidance from loved ones.

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